The long and winding road offered in our last blog appears to continue with no real end in sight, but as we travel this road together, we promised to offer some suggestions for finding opportunities and gifts along the way.  A good starting point involves reframing this pandemic experience. We recognize that each of us has our own unique situations that influence our approach, yet we propose there are opportunities for growth and awareness when we look at two sides of the coin, so to speak.

Similar to Tara Haley’s suggestion that we practice “both/and thinking” (read her article When Your Surge Capacity is Depleted here) another fabulous idea came our way via the book Mindful Pause by Cami Smalley. She introduces us to the phrase “equally true”.  In her book on self-care, she reminds us that every stressful situation also brings with it unexpected perspectives.  It’s about accepting the validity of both experiences and not letting negativity continually get the upper hand.  

While this pandemic is indeed horrific and people are suffering, it is equally true that it seems to be bringing out the best of humanity.  From the incredible first responders, to the generosity of neighbors, to scientists working round the clock to find us answers, we are surrounded by good people doing good work! 

In our personal lives, while our routines have been disrupted, it may be equally true that we have been given an opportunity to slow down, to consider what parts of our old routine were truly essential to our wellbeing. It may be equally true that we now have the time to be introspective, discover new hobbies, or begin to make selfcare a priority.

Even though violence and civil unrest are filling the media, it’s equally true that systemic racial inequalities are finally being acknowledged and addressed. It may be equally true that we are beginning to look at the world we live in through new eyes.

Once again we are reminded that how we experience a situation is determined by our perspective, the story we attach to it. So here is our invitation to you: when things feel hard, try the idea of “equally true” to see if it reveals the (often hidden) good things that come with challenge.  

Turning our attention toward the positive creates greater wellbeing and generates hope.  And we can all use a big dose of hope these days.

With Wonder and Possibility,

Mary and Barb